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A full week of effort after some time off in Florida…it’s exhausting. Maybe the French have the right idea with their short work-week.

Seems like there was lots of driving this week. An LHH class here, a career networking event there, and some final cleanup at the storage unit. Am scheduled to be completely storage unit free by the end of the month. Have sold several treasures, gave some away, and have numerous other golden items still on Craigslist. Come on…somebody needs to buy those 16 old wooden windows. You know you want them!

Ok, this is supposed to be a blog about writing, communication, and general nonsense. Think I’ve covered the latter pretty well lately so let’s pull over here to the scenic lookout and take a gander at a pet peeve. (What? You thought this was always sweetness, and ribbons, and puppies?)

In addition to the gorgeous view from our lookout spot, there’s dead horse in the brush that needs some additional beating. It’s the which horse. Or, the that horse.

I’m not sure when it happened, but people who should know better have hijacked the word that, are keeping it bound and gagged in the basement, and have trotted out the word which as a suitable replacement.

It’s not.

Which is an adjective. You use it to indicate a choice: I can’t decide which shoes to wear.

That is, primarily, a pronoun: That is the tool you are looking for.

I know, there are exceptions. The word that is a complex little bugger. It can be a pronoun, adjective, conjunction, or adverb. Which, it’s cousin, needs less therapy but does, on occasion, crop up as a pronoun but (buckle up ’cause here it comes) it shouldn’t. (“He is the man that started it,”  is just wrong. It should be “He is the man who started it.” He is a who, not a that, a which, or an it.

Which and that should never be pronouns. People are who. We always were, we always are, we always will be who. To substitute which or that for who denigrates and marginalizes people and I don’t think that’s very nice.

My gut feeling is that somewhere back in the late 21st century, marketing , newspaper, and broadcasting people started substituting which for that because they thought it sounded better; more intellectual. Well, it doesn’t. It sounds like you don’t know the difference between which and that, not to mention who.

Don’t believe me? Start listening to the words people use on TV and radio, in newspapers and magazine, and in your office communication. Count the number of times you hear the words which and that and see which one leads the pack.

And, don’t tell me “Oh, it doesn’t matter. They’ll know what I mean.” No, they won’t. At least, the one’s who learned the rules of grammar won’t because your meaning is unclear based on your sloppy choice of words. You have purposefully muddied your meaning.

Remember,  your goal is clear, concise, precise communication. Anything else is dishonest.

So, stop it. Use which to designate a choice. Use that to identify a thing. Use who when referring to people.

Let’s get on down the road and enjoy the view and the journey and leave this poor horse alone. Don’t make me stop this car and go over there again.

It’s surprisingly easy to get up very early when you have to be at the airport and checked in by 7:15 am. Some internal clock goes off inside your brain, at least it does in mine, and I usually wake up well before the alarm clock reminds me it’s time in that gentle way it does.

Had a great visit with daughter and s-i-l at their house just outside of Orlando. Funny, we left DFW with a forecast of 104 degrees only to go to Florida where it was actually cooler. Mid-90s mind you, but cooler. And, it rained nearly every day, so that helped.

Got see the old car show in downtown Kissimmee (six cars total, I think). Not much of a show really. More of a parked-by-the-curb-and-take-a-look-if-you-want affair. Stopped in at the local art studio for a meet-the-artists open house. Didn’t meet any of them and no one spoke so I’m not sure what that was all about except for the free wine and cheese for some. Paitings were eh, anyway.

Too much excitement there so we drove over to Ricardos’s and Janette’s new house for Aunt Lilo’s 84th birthday party. R&J just moved in that week but it was a good-sized place for all to gather. They have a pool, which gave the disaffected yutes a place to hover away from the menacing adults. Best of all, though, the house is on the canal that connects to Lake Toho (I think that’s the Kissimmee lake name). Blackest water I’ve ever seen but swift and deep with sandy banks. Still seems odd to see all that sand instead of black gumbo. It’s like a whole ‘nother state!

Helped install a rain barrell at the kid’s house. Connected a 55 gallon plastic barrell to one of the downspouts of the house guttering. By the time we left Monday morning, the barrell was full and overflowing from only a couple of small rain showers. Just goes to show you there’s an enormous amount of water that runs off the roof even from a small downpour. Glad they don’t have an HOA! There’s no telling what kind of turmoil that would cause! Don’t get me started… I can’t think of any more useless organization on the face of the planet. Oops, did I say that out loud?

With all this networking going on comes meeting lots of people. Some of whom you’d really like to remember. But, one thing that seems to dog a lot of people is remembering the name of the person you met just 12 seconds ago.

It never fails. As soon as you meet someone, have a brief discussion, then part, you think “D’oh. What was his name?” So, here’s what I do. Doesn’t always work but it helps.

1.  As soon as you hear the other person’s name, repeat it. “Hi, Don, I’m Bob. Glad to meet you. So, Don, what brings you to this event?” Repeat it as much as you can in the ensuing conversation and as you part, “Nice to meet you, Don.” How do we train dogs? Repetition. How do we train our adult brains? Right.

2. Associate it with something else. In fact, from what I’ve read, the more ridiculous the association, the better. While you’re talking and listening your brain is going, “Don, pong, donpong, pongdon, donpong tulips.” Now, whenever you see his face again you immediately think, “Tulips. donpong tulips. Don!” “Hey, Don, long time no see.” Right.

3. Write it down. When you get a free moment, turn his business card over (you did get his card, didn’t you?) and write his name on the back. Yes, I know his name is on the front but we’re not trying to train the business card, now are we? No, we’re training the brain and how do we do that? Right, repetition. Write his name on the back of the card, where you met, and what you talked about.

Doesn’t always work but it works better than doing nothing or just leaving the brain to try to keep up. And, we know how well that’s been working, right? I’m just sayin’…

It’s time we stopped sharing. No, really. If you have something to say, tell me (or us, throughout). If you have something to give to me, give it to me. If you have something that you want to show me, then show it to me, hand it to me, slide it over but please stop sharing it. I can’t give it back when we’re done, now, can I?

I know, it all comes out of the “kinder – gentler” phase and I get it. But, please, stop it. We can’t really, in the final definition of the word, really share it, now can we? No, we can’t. You can tell me the information you have, you can show me your nice PowerPoint slides, you can even recite your ideas that, honestly, I am willing to listen to but, ya just gotta stop all the sharing. Get a grip. Telling me you have some things you want to “share” with me is, frankly, starting to sound a bit creepy.

So, stop all the sharing. I’m beggin’ ya, do what you came here to do, sit down, and let’s digest it, let’s talk it over, let’s get to the bottom of it but we just gotta stop all the sharing. If all we ever do is share everything, then who, in the finaly analysis, really owns it? And, if nobody really owns it, then were does the responsibility and the accountability lie? I’m just askin’.

Why is it that when you’re driving down the road or just sitting at home with your spouse and no one is talking, all of a sudden she asks “What are you thinking about?” I’m just askin’.

For some reason, high school girls not liking the ida of a computer career does not surprise me: http://www.eweek.com/c/a/IT-Management/OMG-Computer-Careers-Big-Turnoff-for-High-School-Girls-282953/?kc=rss

I suspect they’d rather get their MBA so they can “manage” the geeks. Oops, did I say that out loud?

Had a great Saturday at the first Big(D)esign conference at SMU. Lots of speakers/presenters talking about design, user experience, user interface trends and practices. Met some very smart people. Rather humbling. And, a few dorks, too, but, that’s probably what they’re saying. And, who could blame them?

We need to talk about sharing. Maybe later today.

Enjoy another gorgeous day in north Texas. God must love us today.

Please, one at a time.

Well, that’s what happens with exponential growth. Not to mention popularity. I suppose it would be to their benefit if they had a business plan but… Interesting moment in history and you can now say you were there when…

What can it mean?

Did he escape to Hooverville where he’s now living the life he’s always dreamed? Did he meet a hooverette and whisk her away to freedom? Is he free to be the hoover he was always meant to be? Was he run over by a truck and dragged away? Or did the owner just pick him up and dump him? Sigh. We’ll never know.

This is my last chance. I hate it when they leave me in this hot garage and I’m not gonna take it anymore. Whenever they leave the door open, I’m gonna make a break for it. Good, they’re gone. Here goes…

Breaking free

Oh, crap. Now which way do I go? What if someone sees me? What if I get run over?

Ahhh, I can’t move! Somebody save me. I’m gonna die out here in the heat. Help!

Sigh, the heartbreak of runaway hoovers. Studies show 1.6 hoovers are victims of runaway decision every minute. Don’t let this happen to your hoover. Call the national hoover runaway hotline and get help or donate today. Remember, the hoover you save might just be your own. Do it today. If not for you, then do it for the children.